Q:
I was just wondering when the reblogging gets too messy, what do you do? (asked by Anonymous)
A:

This is an easy one!  When the reblogging starts to get too painfully long, just cut out everything up to your partner’s most recent response.  It will still show up as you having reblogged and responded to them, without having to clog everyone’s dashes with the lengthy post(s) of every small response up until that point.  If you want or need to review the previous posts in the sequence, you can access them easily from the notes menu of the post on your blog!

Hope this helps! :) <3


Q:
If a blog follows me who plays the same character, is it appropriate to interact with them? I'm keen to say hi, since their blog is so much better than mine! (asked by Anonymous)
A:

Sure, why not?  Just because somebody plays the same character as you doesn’t mean there should be some universal unspoken rule that you should never ever speak to one another, lest a rip open up in the time-space continuum!  I’m not sure about two of the same characters interacting (unless that’s something that might understandably happen in your particular fandom/genre?  I know some fandoms have events like that and treat them like they’re completely normal!), but there’s no reason you shouldn’t say hello to them if you so choose!

Go forth, make roleplaying friends with similar interests! :)

Hope this helps! <3


Q:
The roleplays i do are too serious, and start being boring after a while.. How do i make them more interesting? Thanks| (asked by Anonymous)
A:

If you can, you should definitely switch it up a little until you get that spark back!  Ask your partner(s) if they would mind doing something a little different for a while (with the understanding that it doesn’t necessarily have to directly affect the current storyline, just that you want to try something different for fun).  Then, go nuts!

If you really wanted to try something new with your character(s)/their story, why not try it out now?  For example:

  • Throw them into an AU set two hundred years in the future, or two hundred years in the past.

  • Make something horrendously tragic happen to them, and figure out how they would go about beginning to heal, physically and/or emotionally - or if that’s even possible.

  • Give them a new, unexpected responsibility (like a baby), and see how they deal with it.

  • Throw a giant wrench into the current plot you’re doing.  Or create a big new antagonist to pit your character(s) against, physically and/or intellectually!

There are a ton of other things you could do (both AU-verse and non, if you wanted to make them stick), but basically if you aren’t enjoying a roleplay, you aren’t obligated to have it continue in the same way, and continue to be unhappy (as long as what would make you happy isn’t in some way harmful to your partner’s happiness, in which case it would be preferable for the two of you to come to some sort of agreement on something that would make both of you happy!).

Hope this helps! :) <3


Q:
How do you send notes to start the rp? (asked by Anonymous)
A:

Do you mean how do you initiate an RP with someone who you are not currently RP’ing with?  Or do you mean how do you know how/when/who will start the thread when you do have an established roleplay partner but no current running threads/posts?

To initiate a roleplay with somebody with whom you are not currently roleplaying, simply send them a polite inquiry via their Askbox.  Something to the effect of “Hello!  I noticed you play [character] very well, and I was wondering if perhaps you might be interested in roleplaying with me?  I play [character] and I think that our characters interacting would be fun.  Thank you for taking the time to read this!” is courteous and to the point, and doesn’t necessarily pressure the other roleplayer into accepting if they have too much going on currently to pick up another roleplay/partner.  Nine times out of ten, you will get a similarly courteous response back, and even if you don’t end up with a new partner, you may end up with a new friend who also roleplays!

To establish which person will be starting the thread/roleplay, sending a message to the Askbox works just as well (or, if there is a group of people, posting a short OOC textpost works well, too).  Simply send or post something to the effect of “Would you like to start the roleplay, or would you prefer I do it?” or, for a larger group, “Would someone else like to start, or would all of you prefer for me to do it?”  Also, if you’re unsure of the setting and/or story for the beginning of the roleplay, you can send a message to someone you feel might be more familiar with it: “Sorry to bother you, but did we ever decide on a setting for this thread we’re about to do?”

Hope this helps! :) <3


Q:
My character has multiple adaptations, and I've put months of work into my own characterization. He's an asexual character who (usually) can't feel love. Another RPer asked to ship with mine when I first started out, and I agreed, as a sort of crack ship. But now they're making an R-rated flash game with /my muse/ (who's practically an OC). They asked me a question for its design, and I answered, and I'll feel like a hypocrite if I suddenly say I don't want my character in it. What should I do? (asked by Anonymous)
A:

Are you saying that you’re roleplaying yourself, but as a character?  And this person is putting your you-character into an R-rated flash game without you being expressly comfortable with it?

Can you say sleaze?  Sleaze dot com.  Sleaze dot us dot gov.

If you don’t feel 100% comfortable with your character/muse being used by another person for whatever reason (whether it be a personal character development fic, a large-scale fic (AU or not) for the characters/fandom, or something like this flash game), YOU HAVE NO OBLIGATION TO LET THEM USE YOUR CHARACTER.  Simply explain to this person that while you initially agreed to proving some information to them about your character for the intent of your character being included in their game, you would honestly feel better if they were not to use your character, because you are not entirely comfortable with the idea of your character being included in this sort of game.

If they are a reasonable person, they will agree not to use your character and all will be well.  If they make an argument against this, however, stand your ground - it is your character, after all, not theirs, and as such you have final say in what to do with it - and then cease associating with them once the dilemma blows over.  If they cannot respect your choices towards your character (especially if the character is as personal as it seems), then they are not the sort of person you want to be associating with anyway.

Hope this helps! :) <3


Q:
I'm on a group forum roleplay and one of the people who I have a pairing with is going on a three month hiatus. They don't really get on much anyway, and have taken long breaks without really figuring stuff out before. I tried to say we should discuss this, so I, and the other members, know where their characters are, and everything, but my post was ignored. Should I continue to press the subject/PM them? Otherwise one of my characters will be left hanging again, but I don't want to be rude. (asked by Anonymous)
A:

Let me tell you, as someone who has had (almost) the exact thing happen to them: you are not obligated to involve any person who is not considerate of you and your characters in your characters’ continued development.  If somebody expresses an interest in having their character(s) be involved with yours and then just leaves you hanging without helping you figure out some form of closure, you are completely at liberty to remove them/their character(s) from your character’s life.

If this roleplayer you are working with has abandoned you at random in the past, and did not see fit to leave an explanation for where their character(s) have gone or what happened to them this time around either, then, then as long as your explanation is not slanderous to them or to their character, you are completely at liberty to write their character(s) out of your characters’ story in whatever way you see fit (i.e., perhaps they left due to character family issues that needed to be attended to, or perhaps they simply up and left without explanation, if they are a vagabond type to begin with).

If they wish to come back at a later date and rekindle past relationships, or rewrite the explanation for their character’s disappearance, then they can do that as applicable (if the relationships they want to rekindle are ones that the other person does not similarly want to rekindle, then they will have to respect their decision and write/develop their characters around this).  However, as far as hiatuses go, especially lengthy hiatuses, if they aren’t courteous enough to willingly leave behind an explanation for where their character is going to be while they are on hiatus so others can write around it, then they should not have a problem with those they are roleplaying with coming up with (reasonable) explanations of their own.

In short, don’t let discourteous people stop you from writing and developing your own character!  It’s your story as much as it is anyone else’s, and you have every right to tell it as long as you’re capable - don’t let others intentionally hinder your capability to tell your characters’ stories! :)

Hope this helps! <3


Q:
I love RPing. I've been at it for years. But lately, I've been having a really hard time getting the muse to reply with a character that once was my favourite I play. I've tried other plots and other people but I'm just very stuck. To the point where I see a reply and groan cause I have to reply. I don't want to just give up on the character (and the relationships he's grown over the years) but I need a jump start on muse. Any advice? (asked by Anonymous)
A:

Oh, a cure for muse sickness!  Haven’t we all had moments where we wished there was a magic cure or some “muse juice” to pass around?  Here are a few suggestions for things to try that might help you to write for your muse:

  • Make a playlist of songs that remind you strongly of your character every time you hear them.  They can be songs that make you think of things having to do with their characterization, things going on in their lives (past, present, or future), or simply your feelings towards them.  Apply heavily.

  • Fill out some character memes for your character that make you think hard about things you might not have thought about for them before.  Finding out new and interesting things about your own characters has a way of inspiring muses!  I will post some to this blog in just a moment.  Feel free to reblog as many as you like to use for your character!  If somebody has a problem with it, kill them.  (Not seriously, but this exercise is for your benefit, not theirs.)

  • Try changing him up a bit to see if writing him differently might help you to write him normally again (even if it’s just an AU).  If he’s good and kind, make him evil or untrustworthy; or turn him into a cyborg or a vampire!  Sometimes, no matter how much we love our own characters, they can get stale to write the way they are - so make him different for a little while and see if that helps!

  • Ask people to send your character questions for you to answer IC.  Who knows what sort of mischief or trouble he’ll get into answering them (especially if somebody decides to send NSFW questions)!

  • If you are an artistic sort, draw your character.  Draw them doing something you could see them doing.  Draw something that really expresses their characterization.  Or, if you’re a Photoshop person, make some character graphics.  Make obnoxious amounts of character graphics with embarrassing song lyrics all over them.  Or if you’d prefer to just write, write little ficlets about your character.  Write them doing what you want them to do.  Sometimes roleplay doesn’t take us to all the places or plots we’d prefer - so sometimes you just have to take your character there yourself!

These are just a few suggestions (if anyone knows of any other things that have worked for them in the past, please feel free to send them in so Anon can benefit from them!).  However, sometimes the only cure for a tired muse is to take a little bit of time away from the character.  Overexposure to anything, even our own creations, can easily cause burnout, and the people you roleplay with will likely understand if you tell them that you are simply incapable of responding right now because you don’t have the inspiration to do so (after all, it happens to everyone at one point or another).

And who knows, maybe a short break will help you to come back to them, more inspired to write for them than ever!  After all, as they say, familiarity breeds contempt, but distance makes the heart grow fonder.

Hope this helps! :) <3


Q:
Hi.I have a bit of a problem with a recently new rp partner. Ever since we've started I've had to not once, but twice to message them that it's their turn. And first I thought 'okay they're either busy or they're asleep' Idk where they're from. But then a few days will go by, they reply to their other rps and not ours. And they've told me that they have a hard time keeping track, which is understandable, but I don't want to keep reminding them, and I feel like I'm just bugging them when I do. (asked by Anonymous)
A:

That is a bit of a dilemma!  Honestly, partners who take a while to respond can be a bit of a gamble.  Sometimes they will be busy with other (real-life or roleplay) things, or not have the muse/inspiration to post for that particular thread/arc/character, but sometimes they honestly have simply forgotten to post, and need a bit of a nudge to do so.  In the case of a busy schedule or a lack of muse (which, if you have noticed that their RP activity is spotty/slow to begin with, that is usually a good indicator of this), the only thing that can honestly be done is to wait.  However, if your partner has simply forgotten to post, then they probably do not mind being reminded every now and then that it’s their turn to respond (which, if they are extremely active on their roleplay account, is more likely the case).

Another possibility is that your partner is simply not used to the same type of roleplay that you are.  I am currently part of a roleplaying site where the general wait time for a response post is a few days to a few months, so we’ve had to learn the art of patience if we didn’t want to go stir-crazy.  It’s possible that your partner is more used to this sort of slow-going roleplay format than the more response-intensive, high-energy, snappy back-and-forth format of Tumblr’s RP system, in which case there’s really nothing to do about it except to maybe find a few other roleplayers to thread with while you wait for your main partner’s response(s).  Someone who has learned to roleplay “slow and steady” is likely not capable of responding as quickly/keeping up with somebody who has learned to roleplay quickly and post rapid-fire.

It’s also worth taking into consideration that roleplay can be different things to different people, and that that can easily affect their posting rate.  For some, it’s a full-time hobby that they can jump into at any time, while for others it might be more therapeutic, and they can only really post when they feel the need for that interpersonal interaction and sense of community that roleplay inspires.  While it’s likely that they’re not bugged by your messages, messages asking them when they’re going to post do have the propensity to be stressful, especially if they don’t currently have muse, or haven’t completely decided on what they wanted to do for their next post, but now feel they have to post quickly or else you might become annoyed with them (I’ve been the slow partner enough times to attest!).

Perhaps, if you want to, you could message your partner and ask them if a slower pace for your roleplay would be preferable for them, and what the best time to catch them online would be (so you could be sure to respond to their posts while they are online to see it).  If you would prefer not to do this, however, then really the only thing I can recommend is patience, and/or finding other people to roleplay with in the downtime so you don’t get antsy waiting for your partner’s responses - that way you get to roleplay more frequently, your partner can post on their own schedule, you can both enjoy your roleplay together without having to worry about the other being unhappy/stressed, and everybody wins!

Hope this helps! :) <3


Q:
When I role play it seems like none of my characters are likeable , interesting but not likeable is seems all the anime characters get more attention I understand that it's a free country but are my character that unlikeable should I just make anime character and get with the program ? (asked by Anonymous)
A:

What makes you think your character is unlikable?  Because you feel that they don’t get as much attention as certain other characters from other genres, or because somebody has specifically told you they’re unlikable (which, wow, rude)?

Characters in different genres are inevitably going to receive different amounts of attention, depending on the size of the roleplaying community for that genre/fandom (for example, a Kingdom Hearts-‘verse fan character would probably have a much larger community of roleplayers to work with than, say, a Pride and Prejudice-‘verse fan character).  Just because you don’t feel that you get as much attention as some other roleplayers does not mean your characters are necessarily unlikeable in the slightest!  It just means that perhaps because of your chosen genre you might have to work a bit harder to find people to actively roleplay with.  Which isn’t a bad thing, really, though it can get to be understandably frustrating!

If you don’t want to make an anime character, don’t make one.  You shouldn’t be forced to do something you don’t want to do just so you can interact with people.  Branch out with your current character(s), network, try interacting with people/characters you might not have thought to interact with before, and perhaps more people will come to you once they know your blog/character exists.  Ask a fellow roleplayer to promote you/your character.  Post an opener in your fandom’s tag, if your character is part of a fandom (but be sure to also tag it with [fandom RP] so people not looking for RP posts don’t have to see it, you want to be courteous as well as visible!).

In short, do what makes you happy, not what you feel like you have to do in order to get more character attention.  Ask yourself whether you’d be happier playing a character you only tolerate with more people, or a character you like a lot with less people, and do what you feel would be best for you depending on that. :)

Hope this helps! <3


Q:
how would you go about making/gathering reaction icons? :? last time i just borrowed a few from another roleplayer because i sort of thought they were a public thing, and i got in trouble. ;w; (asked by Anonymous)
A:

I’ve never personally heard of someone getting in trouble for using reaction .gifs (do you mean icons, or .gifs?) posted elsewhere on Tumblr - generally they will have the original creator’s watermark on them so the creator will get credit no matter who uses them.  Were the ones you used not watermarked, or created by a player specifically for a particular character/roleplay, and not for use outside of that?  I’ve mostly been able to get reaction images from simply searching on Google Images for things like “[actor name] gif”, but there are also people here on Tumblr who enjoy making .gifs who would probably be more than happy to make character .gifs for you, if you were to ask them politely (and provide the source material for them to use)!

If you do mean icons, though, there are plenty of resources around specifically for icon making for public use (like Hollow-Art, Livejournal, and InsaneJournal), though be sure to check with the poster (especially on LiveJournal) to make sure they are okay with their icons being used publicly (generally they will have an addendum to the effect of “please do not use as bases” or “if you use them please comment to let me know”, etc.).  Other than that, if you want to make your own, there’s really only the method of collecting images you like of your playby and going through the process of editing them into icons (this is pretty easy, though it can be time-consuming, depending on how many/how obscure of icons you want).

Hope this helps! :) <3